On the Destruction of DOMA

Good afternoon friends,

Yesterday’s decisions by the Supreme Court were indeed historic ones: the destruction of the Defense of Marriage Act, as well as California’s Prop 8.

The liberal pundits are screaming out in joy…are we truly closer to reaching equality?

If you are speaking of legal equality, no doubt it has been a great victory. For example, according to the Human Rights Campaign, same-sex widows may now profit from Social Security survivor benefits. As a Christian, of course, I think this is good – money will be distributed a bit more fairly to another minority!

But, are these Supreme Court decisions a spiritual victory as well?

Well, looking through a Christian lens, although poverty is a great evil, it seems Christ does not believe it to be the greatest. In fact, Christ was obviously a man of little wealth himself and does not seem to care too much about it. He actually implies quite the opposite: that the more money one possesses, the harder it is to remain a truly “good” person (i.e. “it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God” – Matthew 19:24).

So the question becomes about the act of marriage itself. Has the destruction of DOMA been a victory for marriage itself?

Well, I guess that depends on your definition. Do you believe in marriage as a “sacred, sacramental institution” or simply a commitment of “passionate love” to another person? And what do you believe is our chief human goal in the world: “happiness for all” or “painfully selfless sacrifice & justice for all?”

Tomorrow, I’ll be debating about just that.

Stay strong my friends,




Good morning fabulous followers of Christ,

I wanted to extend to you the warmest welcome to my new little place in cyberspace. As the title of this blog implies, this is a place for anyone interested in learning how to remain full-heartedly Catholic and live with same-sex attraction.

How is it possible to healthily live out such a contradiction? God is calling us, but how can we best serve him? I’m here to help you discover that along with me.

There is a large absence of a gay-Catholic blog community on the web. I’m here to change that. I look forward to answering any & all questions, comments, etc.

I can’t wait to begin this new adventure.

Your brother in Christ,